Wednesday, May 01, 2013

A Nudge From Above

It’s strange how a crisis can help you put things in perspective.

A friend of mine died this past Monday (April 29th). It was a sudden death. Unexpected. Possibly a heart attack from stress. It happened at night sometime. He was alone. He was about my age.

The initial shock I felt lasted hours. The stuff I was working on lost importance. To say that what I was worrying about became meaningless would be an overstatement, but my concerns definitely seemed not so important anymore. I felt restless, unable to function, unwilling to do anything but pace and reflect.

Then sadness set in. More memories. Age-old questions: Why? Why him? Why now?

More hours passed, and it occurred to me at some point that I could easily sink into despair, bombarded by questions that would bring no peace,


I could celebrate my friend’s life, and think of the good times, the happy times, the essence of who he was. That is what he would prefer, I believe.

Yes, I will have my time of mourning. Yet in celebrating my friend’s life, I will also be honoring my own because I will try even harder not to take life too seriously and to always put things in perspective. I will do my best not only to live each moment, as it is occurring, but to be grateful for the things I have in my life, and the time I have here on Earth.

I might never know the ‘why’ of what happened. But I will try even harder to treasure every moment and to be grateful for life, friends, family, situations (even the bad ones)…

Because life has more meaning this way.


  1. Beautiful, wise words Ann Marie. Carpe Diem!

    "When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
    When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight."

  2. Thank you, Jennie. I love the quote.